"There is no such thing as a perfect parent, so just be a real one." -Sue Atkins

The love of a parent for their children is incomparable. Seeing their offspring grow to be responsible, caring, and successful people is the dream of every mother and father. Any loving guardian wants their son or daughter to overachieve them in every possible way.

Nonetheless, it is essential to state that being a parent is no easy task; it's a messy, selfless, and ungratifying job that is not necessarily for everyone. 

There are certain situations for a parent that are slightly stressful and must be taken seriously. Such as? Parents continually provide materially for their children, try to discipline while at the same time being understanding, and deal with educators to ensure the absolute best education.

It has been estimated by recent experts that parents spend at least 2 hours a day feeling stressed out about their children's wellbeing. Therefore, to reduce anxiety in one urgent matter, in today's article, we shall discuss some useful tips that parents should put into practice when conversing with teacher's at a parents evening.

We are positive that after reading the tips and tricks below, you will make the best impression and be confident that your child is in the best hands!

Adequately Prepare

"Before anything else, preparation is the key to success." -Alexander Graham Bell

Mr Bell, you couldn't be more correct! Preparedness is essential in any situation and especially when you are speaking to others about the education of your child and their goals for the future. Therefore, parents need to "do their homework" before speaking with their child's educator(s).

What is involved in preparation? The following list briefly describes how to adequately prepare:

  • Look through your child's books,
  • Frequently check their test results and assignment grades,
  • Ask your child about how they feel about certain subjects and what their difficulties are,
  • Question your son or daughter to see which teacher they are having the hardest time understanding.

After preparing all of the following aspects, use your skills of deduction to identify what can be improved and what needs to be discussed with each individual teacher of your child. Investigation and preparation from the parent are essential at any age, from the early years of primary school to the last years of secondary schooling. Why? To ensure a prosperous future for your offspring since education is so essential parents need to care.

Also, before concluding this section, preparation is essential since teachers at parents evening do not have much time and stumbling to find the words and things to ask just wastes a lot of valuable time.

Nonetheless, what about asking specific questions to the teacher, what should be asked? Read the following section to find out more!

Ask Specific Questions

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Constantly asking questions will help parents get to the bottom of an issue. (Source: Unsplash)

"The art and science of asking questions is the source of all knowledge." -Thomas Berger

To get to the bottom of a matter and effectively find the answer of anything questions must be asked. We must be like children in our way of problems. How so? Young kids always ask questions about pretty much everything with the goal of finding out information about things that interest them; they are eternally curious, and we must be the same.

Therefore, do not be afraid to ask questions about your child's teachers to find out how they are doing and what can be done to enhance their overall learning experience.

It is important to remember that teachers are gold mines of information that have a wealth of knowledge; seeking their advice on how to help your child succeed is extremely important. Also, if you know of a specific matter that has occurred, do not have any fear to approach the educator to ask questions for clarification and further understanding.

By not asking questions, you are wasting a lot of time at parent's evening. Did you know that we have an article written about which questions to ask at a parents evening available on our website? Click here for a seven-minute read!

Be Cooperative

"The only thing that will redeem mankind is cooperation." -Bertrand Russell

What would you prefer, someone who purposely creates a scene to disagree with you or someone who tries to understand your point of view? I think the answer is quite apparent; everyone wants to be surrounded by people who make an effort to be cooperative and understand.

And, since we should all strive to live by the golden rule of "treating others as you would like to be treated", showing a general attitude during parents evening is a no-brainer.

After you have posed questions to find out the overall state of your child, be open to the suggestions of the academic advisor. For instance, if the teacher states that more time should be dedicated to homework or that a private tutor might be necessary, by all means, do not scoff at the advice but rather accept it as something helpful.

Deciding to be uncooperative with the teacher will only harm your child's overall progress and make it almost impossible to have the respect and assistance of the educator in the future.

Ever felt like completely blasting one of your child's teachers at parents evening? If so, you're probably not alone; however, it is essential to read the following tip to avoid any sort of embarrassment.

Don't Be Overly Critical

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There should be no yelling during parents evening. (Source: Unsplash)

"Learn to see the difference between constructive and destructive criticism. Appreciate the constructive, ignore the destructive." -John Douglas

We all have issues and things to work on; nevertheless, the last thing we really want to happen is to have people shout at us and overly criticise us for our mistakes. This is essential to keep in mind before criticising one of your child's academic advisors. Teachers are flawed individuals just like the rest of us; however, they honestly have the best intentions in creating a healthy atmosphere for students to grow academically.

Consequently, do not be overly critical with the teacher of all problems that your child is facing in the academic classroom. The teacher is definitely not responsible for everything negative that happens in a specific class. Why not? There are many external and internal elements such as bullying, feelings of depression, and insecurity that lead to academic troubles.

We strongly urge all of our dear parents to not play the blame game on the teacher since their job is already hard enough and increasing in overall difficulty in today's day and age as a result of students attitude problems; therefore, give them the benefit of the doubt and create a friendly rapport.

Get Both Sides of the Story

"Believing someone blindly and not believing the one who we can believe blindly, will lead to destruction." -J R Mani

The blame game of "he said, she said" is a story that has existed since the beginning of time. It seems that not wanting to accept blame and be responsible for something negative is a flaw of human nature.

Therefore, it is essential to keep in mind that when your child blames the teacher for bad test results and criticises their entire way of teaching, try to remain impartial and speak with the teacher at parents evening to receive both sides of the story.

Although it is difficult for the majority of parents to not fall into the lies of their children, they must resist the temptation to believe everything that their child says. Young ones have the power to exaggerate certain events and shamelessly blame others for their mistakes to get out of trouble.

Arrive at parents evening with an open and accepting attitude that will positively contribute to the growth of all involved. 

Do not be afraid to express concerns about why your child is criticising the teacher's methods and see what can be done to increase overall communication between all parties involved. Speaking about communication, read the following, and the last subheading, to see how conversing can be improved.

Forge Bonds of Communication and Follow Up

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There should be open communication between teachers and parents. (Source: Unsplash)

"Good communication is the bridge between confusion and clarity." -Nat Turner

With open communication, wars are won, and confusing times are avoided amongst students, parents, and teachers. Mothers and fathers should encourage their children to improve their overall relationship with their educator and view them as friends instead of foes.

Also, parents should have open communication with their children's teachers not only during parents evening but throughout the entire school year. It is not uncommon for parents to have a teacher's phone number to send them a text when they have a comment or concern that must be addressed.

Of course, moderation is key in communication to not overwhelm the teacher since they are busy individuals with many tasks to handle. 

It is also necessary to state that during parents evening, many targets and agreed actions are completed; consequently, it is essential to follow-up and ensures that both parents and teachers are helping in these matters.

In conclusion, we are confident that the advice in today's article will significantly help mothers and fathers during parents evening to not make an embarrassment of themselves but rather contribute to the needs of their offspring; education is the key to success!


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